Our Hotwives

So it’s been more than 7 years now since my now wife found out about my cuckold fetish but sadly we still haven’t made any progress, in fact nothing has happened at all.

There was a period where she was trying to find guys online but due to time wasters, she got annoyed and just gave up on it. In recent times she’s casually admitted to being interested in trying a big dick so I feel there’s still a small hope there.

Now present day I have recently found a way to give myself premature ejaculation so that within 3 minutes of intercourse starting (no foreplay receiving for me at all) I’m already cumming. First time she was just more surprised as I previous suffered from delayed ejaculation so could never finish but I’m hoping if I can finish within 3 mins each time, she’ll get more curious about what’s out there.

We have a vacation overseas planned soon and as it’s quite a big tourist destination that we’ll be spending a lot of time at the hotel, I’m hoping I can convince her to find a guy she may be into so let’s hope the stars align and my plan works

Being deliberately sexually disappointing to your wife is a crappy thing to do, and manipulative to boot.

Maybe it won't work, and she'll just accept being a woman with a rubbish sex life. Maybe it will work, in a way you don't expect, and she'll just leave you (although I know some fetishists think that's the ultimate turn-on).

Either way, she deserves better. It's so absurdly selfish, I think she'd probably be better off without you.

You're not the first guy I've read about doing such things, but I sure hope nobody else here follows your example.

The guys impulsively resorting to trickery and manipulation leave me feeling sad for their partners.

Sorry if the above seems overly harsh or angry in tone, but I meant every word.

Now to be a bit more constructive, I'd like to suggest that a more promising path is to give her a really good, hot sex life at home. I know for myself, and some others the more we get, the more we want (up to an individual's saturation point of course).

If you raise the temperature in your own bed - especially if accompanied with hotwife-adjacent pillow talk - I reckon you'll have a better chance of revving up her libido and getting her to think about more adventurous things. Sounds like she was pretty close before.

leggysman wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 02, 2024 4:28 am

Sorry if the above seems overly harsh or angry in tone, but I meant every word.

Now to be a bit more constructive, I'd like to suggest that a more promising path is to give her a really good, hot sex life at home. I know for myself, and some others the more we get, the more we want (up to an individual's saturation point of course).

If you raise the temperature in your own bed - especially if accompanied with hotwife-adjacent pillow talk - I reckon you'll have a better chance of revving up her libido and getting her to think about more adventurous things. Sounds like she was pretty close before.

Don’t worry not harsh and I get your point!

In all honestly we’ve tried a lot, including more sex but she’s never satisfied due to my size (I’m about 4.5 inches but a foot taller than her so we struggle with many positions) and as I mentioned she expresses she wants something better and to try, just never does.

Not that I want to pile on but leggys is 100% on here. I don’t want to yuck anyone’s yum or anything but a fabricated sexual disfunction is essentially a lie. You don’t want to start down the journey based on a lie.

You’re going to have to be ok with your wife never sleeping with another man. If you love her for who she is, this won’t be a problem, I’m sure you can agree. We all want this fantasy, duh, but not every wife will do it. That’s just the cold hard truth.

I’m no pro here, you’ll probably get good advice from other guys. However, my two cents are that you need to make sure she truly understands why you want this so badly. She also has to want this as much as you do. If/when that day comes, you won’t have to convince her anymore.

You look like you have a pretty decent physique, my man. 4.5" is enough to work with. Get creative! Do research! There are lots of positions. Sex and arousal is 90% psychological anyway. And you didn't say your tongue and fingers are defective Plus, toys, sheaths, etc. And talk.

I know that after a years-long relationship/marriage, changing established patterns and dynamics is hard. But your marriage and sex life is worth it, and the reward could be great.

Per VwatchesK92, build a strong foundation, spice up that sex life, make sure she knows how strong your kink is and how much you'd love it, and tell her this: if she does it, your marriage bond will probably get stronger, your openness and communication will be rejuvenated, and the sex life you have together will get rocket boosters.

And hell, ask her to come here and have a look around. She can read about and/or meet some of the once-skeptical wives (like mine) who now enjoy the pleasures (and yes, sometimes challenges) of being a hotwife.

Finding OHW was a game-changer for us, once leggysandy started to learn about it, joined up, and got encouragement from everyone (especially the other VHW ladies like Farmgirl). Within a few weeks, she was a hotwife.

Hope you have a great vacation

Good luck

9214s wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 02, 2024 10:28 am

leggysman wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 02, 2024 4:28 am

Sorry if the above seems overly harsh or angry in tone, but I meant every word.

Now to be a bit more constructive, I'd like to suggest that a more promising path is to give her a really good, hot sex life at home. I know for myself, and some others the more we get, the more we want (up to an individual's saturation point of course).

If you raise the temperature in your own bed - especially if accompanied with hotwife-adjacent pillow talk - I reckon you'll have a better chance of revving up her libido and getting her to think about more adventurous things. Sounds like she was pretty close before.

Don’t worry not harsh and I get your point!

In all honestly we’ve tried a lot, including more sex but she’s never satisfied due to my size (I’m about 4.5 inches but a foot taller than her so we struggle with many positions) and as I mentioned she expresses she wants something better and to try, just never does.

I agree trying to be sexually inadequate is lame. I also think it doesn't work. If you get her hot and bothered and can make her cum while dirty talking the cuck thing, you will be WAY more successful IMO.

Secondly, from your other comments, it's not about you, not really. She's open to it, just needs the opportunity. Be patient, it'll happen if the right guy hits on her at the right time. Online meetups are nice when they work, but for most people the thrill of the chase turns into dating hell using the online technique. I will say, maybe an exception would be a kink friendly dating app. Good luck. I hope your vacation is to a sex friendly environment!

I think you are getting sound advice here. Although you may get turned on by denial of sex, don't assume that your wife's psychology will be the same as yours. As pointed out, she may just feel if your sexual response drops off, that you aren't turned on by her anymore. A dangerous assumption, since most women love to have men turned on to them.

BTW, what exactly did you do to go from a delayed ejaculator to a premature ejaculator? Now easy to do.

I chuckled when I read your post stating “7” years as it was 10 years for me. Up until it actually happened I would have bet it would not have happened, luckily we had discussed it and it was “on the table”, then the right guy at the right time happened, I couldn’t believe it actually happened...

How did you learn to premature ejaculate? I didn't think that was possible.

rvplace wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 22, 2024 3:12 am

I chuckled when I read your post stating “7” years as it was 10 years for me. Up until it actually happened I would have bet it would not have happened, luckily we had discussed it and it was “on the table”, then the right guy at the right time happened, I couldn’t believe it actually happened...

Funny enough I’m a few days away from it happening now. We found a guy she was comfortable with and they have a date planned this week.

zorro wrote: ↑

Sat Dec 21, 2024 8:29 pm

BTW, what exactly did you do to go from a delayed ejaculator to a premature ejaculator? Now easy to do.

KevKev wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 23, 2024 9:36 am

How did you learn to premature ejaculate? I didn't think that was possible.

So maybe it’s a coincidence but previously I would literally masturbate to ejaculation daily. Even if my wife and I had sex, I’d jerk off that night too. Then when on vacation, I decided to try doing semen retention where I jerk off but don’t cum. I tried it for ages and would just cum every other day and noticed my erection improved quite a bit so decided to go further in.

Once I started to ejaculate only once a week, I noticed that I was finishing faster and faster. We usually have sex around once a week or fortnight and I’m only ejaculating with her but last time I ejaculated within 50 seconds and if I masturbate recently, I’m struggling not to cum within 30 seconds and there had been a few times I couldn’t even hold my ejac.

It may be coincidence but I think masturbating daily without ejaculation has made me super sensitive and caused it. There is a possibility it’s unrelated as work has got very stressful too.

9214s wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 01, 2024 4:32 pm

... I have recently found a way to give myself premature ejaculation so that within 3 minutes of intercourse starting (no foreplay receiving for me at all) I’m already cumming. First time she was just more surprised as I previous suffered from delayed ejaculation so could never finish...

Interesting, I suffer from delayed ejaculation. How did you overcome that?

9214s wrote: ↑

Tue Jan 07, 2025 5:00 pm

Funny enough I’m a few days away from it happening now. We found a guy she was comfortable with and they have a date planned this week.

How did the date go? Is she a hotwife now?

Someone2love wrote: ↑

Sat Mar 01, 2025 6:37 pm

9214s wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 01, 2024 4:32 pm

... I have recently found a way to give myself premature ejaculation so that within 3 minutes of intercourse starting (no foreplay receiving for me at all) I’m already cumming. First time she was just more surprised as I previous suffered from delayed ejaculation so could never finish...

Interesting, I suffer from delayed ejaculation. How did you overcome that?

All I changed was I started doing semen retention. So I only ejaculate once a week now, pretty much during partnered play. At first though I was going 2-3 weeks without ejaculating BUT I still masturbate daily. I get super horny this way so I think that's what has made me cum so fast, I'm at 30 seconds now with both my wife and masturbation.

Funny enough by doing this my erections improved a lot.

MatureCouple wrote: ↑

Sun Mar 02, 2025 3:11 am

9214s wrote: ↑

Tue Jan 07, 2025 5:00 pm

Funny enough I’m a few days away from it happening now. We found a guy she was comfortable with and they have a date planned this week.

How did the date go? Is she a hotwife now?

She really enjoyed it. Sadly hasn't happened again as she quite likes this guy but he isn't primarily located in the same city as us but I'm hoping she eventually wants to find someone else and more permanent.

9214s wrote: ↑

Mon Mar 03, 2025 1:18 pm

Someone2love wrote: ↑

Sat Mar 01, 2025 6:37 pm

9214s wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 01, 2024 4:32 pm

... I have recently found a way to give myself premature ejaculation so that within 3 minutes of intercourse starting (no foreplay receiving for me at all) I’m already cumming. First time she was just more surprised as I previous suffered from delayed ejaculation so could never finish...

Interesting, I suffer from delayed ejaculation. How did you overcome that?

All I changed was I started doing semen retention. So I only ejaculate once a week now, pretty much during partnered play. At first though I was going 2-3 weeks without ejaculating BUT I still masturbate daily. I get super horny this way so I think that's what has made me cum so fast, I'm at 30 seconds now with both my wife and masturbation.

Funny enough by doing this my erections improved a lot.

So you masturbate, but stop short of cumming (edging)?

Someone2love wrote: ↑

Tue Mar 04, 2025 12:54 am

9214s wrote: ↑

Mon Mar 03, 2025 1:18 pm

Someone2love wrote: ↑

Sat Mar 01, 2025 6:37 pm

9214s wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 01, 2024 4:32 pm

... I have recently found a way to give myself premature ejaculation so that within 3 minutes of intercourse starting (no foreplay receiving for me at all) I’m already cumming. First time she was just more surprised as I previous suffered from delayed ejaculation so could never finish...

Interesting, I suffer from delayed ejaculation. How did you overcome that?

All I changed was I started doing semen retention. So I only ejaculate once a week now, pretty much during partnered play. At first though I was going 2-3 weeks without ejaculating BUT I still masturbate daily. I get super horny this way so I think that's what has made me cum so fast, I'm at 30 seconds now with both my wife and masturbation.

Funny enough by doing this my erections improved a lot.

So you masturbate, but stop short of cumming (edging)?

Pretty much like edging but I try not to get too close to orgasm as I can’t really stop myself from cumming like I used to.